Completed the home visit portion of our home study today...finally ready to wait! I find this preparation to be ridiculous this time around. I'm not discounting the need to check out potential families and homes...it is quite necessary to be sure that the agencies are dealing with couples/families that are of sound mind and "stable." I just think there should be some kind of clause that lets you opt out of portions of the process if you've already done this before (especially recently, Jenny & Dave). I realize there are cases (though few and far between yet, highly publicised) that warrant the repetitive nature of this process. Though I find it ridiculous, my house was still FAR cleaner today at 10:30 a.m. than it ever actually is, even when we're having company! I'm laughing because we even knew what to expect this time around and we still did the EXTREME cleaning. Poor Jason was so worried about making sure we had two smoke detectors...This was a comment made by the woman who did our first home study. Jason wanted to rectify the situation (three years later) so he went to get a second detector and battery for the one we already had. I say had because, when he went to replace the battery, he discovered that the original smoke detector did not work! Back to Menards he went! We now have two working smoke detectors and the social worker didn't even ask if we had one...poor buddy! So, note to all parents...do you have at least one smoke detector and does it work?
I think we passed the test...She asked a lot of questions about Jayce. That must be the biggest update of our home study. He truly has brought so much joy to our lives and we were thrilled to share with the social worker that Jayce has already named his baby sister (he insists it will be a girl) FooFoo. I tried to tell him last night about the names we have picked for a baby. I showed him how to spell the girl's name we have chosen (assuming our b-mom doesn't have something else in mind) and he told me that it was wrong and asked me how to spell FooFoo...of course, I showed him! Some things are just not worth fighting over. I guess she'll always be FooFoo to him. ...assuming it is a she.
The social worker told us that it shouldn't take long for her to complete our home study since she has most everything caught up. We still have to go have our physicals...yes we have to get a note from our doctor saying we are healthy enough to add another baby to our family...he couldn't see us until the 27th so we'll at least have to wait until then to become "active." The average placement with our agency is about 3 to 6 months. So, we wait...
Hopefully someone will choose us. This brings me to another topic I will have to blog about later...being chosen. For now, I will say this. It saddens me that any woman/family comes to a place where they feel unable to care for or provide what their child needs. I cannot understand the heartache they must feel or the pain/anguish/sadness this decision brings into their life. We can only offer a safe home full of love for their child. I imagine that is only partly comforting, but I pray that our b-parents can know that their child will be shown that is ok to love their first family. We hold a very high amount of respect for Jayce's tummy mommy and her decision for Jayce. We love her beyond what we could have imagined in the beginning and we know Jayce loves her. Jason asked him the other night about A. Jayce said, "Yeah...I know who A is. She loves me!"